Honestly i find hard to believe you have soldered before.
your soldering skills are bad, no disrespect.
You have plenty of videos on youtube, you can learn alot from them.
Very briefly:
- always clean the surface with Isopropyl alcohol, if you don't have this you can use normal alcohol but be sure to dry it out very well
- always use flux
- always clean the solreding iron tip
- always tin the soldering iron tip
- don't touch your solder with your iron, just touch the surface you want to add solder on. ALWAYS
- Always clean the surface after solder you Isopropyl alcohol.
and yes, practice practice practise.
BTW, the solder on motherboards are usually old, that makes them harder to melt. That's why you should tin them. That makes them easy to melt.
You can use the bottom connections as well. You can look at the points and watch the track. Depending on where the track is you can solder that point in the top or bottom of the board. That makes it easier to connect.
For example, for the reading of nand on phats there is only 1/2 tracks in the top of the board. Wich means all of the rest are beneath. Therefore it's easier to solder it in the bottom side.